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CHILDREN ARE THE LIVE FORCE OF THE SOCIETY. WITHOUT THEM IT SEEMTO BE BLOODLESS AND COLD (A. S.
MAKARENKO).
February 17, 2001 Irena Bairashevskaya and Valery Levonevsky became god-parents of the boy IVAR (See photo).
The christening was held in the Roman Catholic church, at 18.00. The ceremony was held in solemn and benevolent conditions.
We congratulate Elena Khveduk, the mother of the god-son.
LET IT WILL BE SO:
IN THE FAMILY - LOVE,
IN WORK - RESPECT.
WE WISH YOU SUCCESSES, PLEASURE OF WORK
AND A LITTLE PATIENCE.
IVAR! (Photo)
TODAY AND ALWAYS WE WISH YOU HAPPINESS.
LET’S DESTINY SAVE YOU FROM GLOOMS AND BAD WEATHER
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FROM MALICIOUS LANGUAGE, FROM GROSS ILLNESS.
FROM A CLEVER ENEMY, FROM A PETTY FRIEND.
AND LET’S GOD IF HE CAN GIVE YOU
HEALTH, A LOT OF YEARS AND A LOT OF HAPPINESS.
The greatest happiness for father and mother is your honest life, diligence, and per school years - diligence in the studying. Bring pleasure in the house, keep happiness of the family. (V.À. Sukhomlinsky)
… There should be a revaluation of behaviour and destiny of men in the society!!!
Why do boys die so frequently from incidents? From the early childhood we inspire a boy - you are a man, you should be strong, adroit, you are a soldier, protector … And boys trying to follow these qualities become less cautious, more heated, not balanced and die from casualties and we do not realise our fault in it.
The time, at last, has come to understand the present sharp inconsistency between biological destiny of a man - as father with his social realisation in the society where he in most cases has defined violent functions of the chief, conqueror, ruler to himself.
The style and way of life of men do not help him to live for many years. On the one hand, psycho-emotional and mental overloads at poor physical activity of men - leaders, politicians, public figures, government officials, businessmen and, on the other hand, overloads at men who are engaged in high physical work. Thus high parameters of alcoholism, drug addiction, criminality - all this also do not help to health of men. And stresses are removed by "the strong sex" by smoking and alcohol.
To increase life time it is necessary for men to change the conventional role in the society and to strengthen the biological destiny, i.e. role of the paternity. It is necessary to tell to a boy that he is "not a future - soldier!" and a future - father!". To prepare boys for the paternity it is necessary as well as girls to motherhood.
Functions of father a man should execute on a level with functions of a woman - mother. You see the scientists have proved that a dialogue with children helps to extend a human life.
The increase of life time of man depends also on genial health of a woman. In this case men should remember that a healthy woman – mother – is healthy children (boys and girls) who have an identical chance to live long.
At the same time boys who were born by an ill mother are less viable than girls in view of their biological features. That is why in our life we hear very often (it is quite true) -
"Save women! "
But as it was already marked the biological factor in problems of life time is not leading. In some countries men live on the average longer than women – they are India, Nigeria, Pakistan. In these countries woman is not liberated up to the end till now and it tells a lot.
Thus, the main reasons of heightened death rate of men are all the same in the social sphere. Except for already called problem of loneliness is included to them.
They are men for whom it is very difficult to suffer loneliness and it has an effect for their life time. For example, in Italy on 100 thousand population has died:
Causes of death:
Illnesses of heart; Road accidents; Cancer of lungs; Cancer of organs of digestion;
Acute vascular insufficiency; Suicides; Cirrhosis of liver; Hypertonia
Married:
176;35;28;27;24;1,7;11;8
Divorced:
237;54;32;38;42;32;31;16.
Unmarried:
362;128;65;48;58;73;79;20.
In all groups from 70 to 85 % were made by men.
In the majority countries and especially in countries of former Soyuz and Belarus the decrease of the man's population especially in able-bodied age, the smaller life time of men on the background of low birth rate and common getting old of the population is today an extremely severe state problem as it is connected with an economic potential of the country and its future.
Therefore the most actual slogan is a slogan:
" Men and women, save each other!"
Neither matriarchy, nor patriarchy will save mankind. Vice-versa, we are on the eve of the third millennium have got crisis of family where the female activity dominates (family disruption, the low birth rate, growth of abortions etc.) and crisis in the state policy where men's activity dominates (violence, criminality, corruption, wars, poverty of the majority etc.). It is necessary to glorify motherhood and paternity equally and also arrange socio-political functions equally.
The basis of social and biological destiny of man, his health, longevity and happiness on the Planet Earth is the unity of contrasts and harmony both in Nature and in the Society. We do not have other way!
S. V. Bestuzheva
From the family manual on the ecology of health
"Living will be helped only by living"
What explains differences in life time of men and women?
For a long time only the specialists have had the information about different life time of men and women. Only at the end of the 60-s the article of B. Urlanis, a well-known demographer, who was the first to put a question about necessity of social measures directed to increase the level of life time of men appeared. However invoking of the writer - "Save men!" in that time was not supported. The opponents, mainly women, reduced a low life time and heightened death rate of men to smoking, often use of alcohol and high sex activity.
Certainly, in a definite measure it is impossible to disagree with it but there is also other statistics indicating high death rate of male germs already in the mother’s womb. Despite of it women bear more boys than girls. But we have a higher death rate of the boys till 4 years (more often from incidents). Therefore, a higher birth rate of boys is levelled by their heightened death rate. To the mature age the ratio of sexes levels off and percentage of the women starts to increase when getting old. The number of the elderly women twice exceeds those men. This fact is observed both in our country and in developed countries.
Therefore slogan "Save men!” is not idle and requires deep analysis. In this case it is possible to point out some reasons of this phenomenon.
The first thing is a biological factor.
During the evolution the mankind is multiplied in a sexual way. Its peculiarities are eas following: all heritable information is concentrated in genes which form composite formations - chromosomes in cells. We will not load the reader with the composite genetic terms, we shall mark only that at this level the difference of sexes are formed. In cores of all cells of an organism of a man there are 23 pairs of chromosomes. 22 pairs are the same at men and women and the 23-pair at women is represented by two Õ-chromosomes (ÕÕ), and at men by one Õ- and second Y - chromosomes (ÕÓ). On the one hand, Y - chromosome is a factor of biological variety and variability, on the other it forms features of a man (physical force, severity, aggressiveness).
In the biological sense, in opinion of many explorers, it is the Y - chromosome which makes a man less viable. Why has the nature disposed in such a way? First of all, it is connected with the function of giving birth to a child. Sometimes it seems if men “give birth to children” the situation would be opposite. You see the process of bringing forth and giving birth to a child is connected with a definite part of risk for an organism of a woman and requires additional biological reserves.
However biological factor influences greatly life time only in germinal and early (at the breast) age about what data mentioned above speak.
At the same time Y - chromosome makes a men more vulnerable and in the social sense. You see it is the men who have killed each other for the second millennium and in their wars millions of women and children die.
MIRACLES OF A SMILE AND A KIND WORD
( Or some psychology for each day)
The woman has come to the psychiatrist on reception and says:
- I hate the husband. I would do everything to make him suffer.
- In such a case, - the doctor answer the women - start to pay compliments to him. When he believes that you love him very much and won’t be able to live without you offer divorce.
Some time after the doctor and a patient meet again.
- I am very grateful to you, - she says.
- Was my advice useful?
- Yes.
- Then it is time to divorce.
- No! I have fallen in love with the husband.
This is a well-known joke illustrates well a main psychological principle: everyone is dying for a kind friendly word and liking and receiving pays by reciprocity. If we conquer fatigue, bore and insult and begin to smile people around us of course we shall only gain from it. We shall fall in love with people and world and such love will make us younger. A smile is the cheapest and most effective cosmetic means. If you do not trust this, approach to a mirror and give a face customary tired, gloomy expression. How old are you? And now smile and compare …
Some women try not to laugh keeping in mind laughter causes wrinkles.
This is the deepest fallacy. Laughter does not cause wrinkles. However they do not show our age. We seem to be older when there is an expression of fatigue and bitter taste which causes hanging of features of a face at our face. And the smile prevents it.
"Laughter costs nothing but can make a lot. It enriches one who receives it not leaning the one who gives".
"Smile continues one moment and occasionally leaves an eternal track".
"Smile creates happiness in a family, it is rest for the tired, light for disappointed and sad and best antidote which was created by the nature against misfortune".
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